Spice Up Your Marriage

We all remember the classic 1976 movie, Rocky. Played by Sylvester Stallone, Rocky begins showing some interest in Adrian, a nerdy wallflower of a woman who works at a neighborhood pet shop. Her brother, Paulie, a tough-guy Mafioso wannabe, does not completely trust Rocky’s intentions towards his sister. So he asks…
     Paulie: You like her?
     Rocky: Sure, I like her.
     Paulie: What’s the attraction?
     Rocky: I dunno… she fills gaps.
     Paulie: What’s gaps?
     Rocky: I dunno, she's got gaps, I got gaps; together we fill gaps.

While I don’t want to fall into the trap of saying your partner “completes” you, there is profound truth in understanding that marriage was designed to fill in our gaps.

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper [companion, partner, counterpart, helpmate] who is just right [suitable, adapted, complementary] for him.” (Genesis 2:18)

When God looked at his overall creation, he marveled at how good it was.  But he took exception when he considered man, and noted that it wasn’t good for man to be alone.  Man needed someone to not only fulfill his need for companionship and intimacy, but to also make him more completely into God’s intended design.

Begin to look at each other through the eyes of God.  You were custom designed for one another.  Your spouse is God’s precious gift to you proving that his favor is upon your life (Proverbs 18:22).

Live happily with the woman you love… The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil. (Ecclesiastes 9:9)

Are you living in that marital fulfillment?  If not, ask yourself, Why not? Then repent and ask God to transform your marriage and your heart toward one another.  Recognize that you have but one lifetime to offer your husband or wife, and live it to the fullest - without regrets - so that God’s love for you can be reflected in your love for each other.